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Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Worrying...Part 1

Stop worrying !

This subject is not out of context of my "Challenge everything"  slogan , What I'm trying to challenge here is a form of mental illness , that is "Worrying" .

Dale Carnegie is a great author , he was praised in Daily Express as follows :

"When...Dale Carnegie wrote his ground-breaking guide How to win friends and influence people he set a ball rolling that never stopped gathering momentum. The Book..gave birth to a self-improvemment industry that spans the globe".

In his other book "How to enjoy your life and job" he wrote :

"Why don't you stop right now and ask yourself , " What in the hell am I worrying about? " , You will prbably find that it is comparatively unimportant and insginifciant."

The prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said :

"The issues/situations of a believer is all good,  if he is tested by trials/tribulations and bears it with patience then its good for him (as he will be rewarded for his patience)  ,  and if he is blessed with a gift and was thankful then its good for him (as he will be rewarded for being thankful )".

About ninty percet of the things in our lives are right and about ten percent are wrong , If we want to be happy , all we have to do is to concentrate on the ninety percent that are right and ignore the ten percent that wrong. If you want to be worried and bitter and have stomach ulcers, all we have to do is concentrate on the ten percent that are wrong and ignore the ninety percent that are glorious.

The word "Think and Thank" was inscribed (engraved/written) in many of the Cromwelliam churches of England. , It means : Think of all we have to be grateful for, and thank God for all our boons(blessings) and bounties(rewards)".

Allah said : "But if ye count the favours of Allah, never will ye be able to number them. Verily, man is given up to injustice and ingratitude." (14:34)

And as Schopenhauer said "We seldom think of what we have but always think of what we lack".

One might have problems that overwhelm him/her and think that Dale is wrong , he/She might even think that his ratios should have been inverted , so instead of 90:10 (Right:Wrong) , it should be (Wrong:Right).

If you think so then answer this question : Would you take a million dollars for what you have? ..
Would you take a million dollars for your sight , for your hearing , for your mind or for the beauty of your face?

On my way to work every morning , I see this pitiful woman - sitting by the side of the road - whose face is totally burned , and she has two babies sitting on her laps , and she is supposed to be selling napkins but she isnt even paying attention to selling , when I pass by her I always find her smiling at her babies and babying then , she never asks for money , she is just sitting there waiting for a kind heart to give her a pound.

Imagine yourself in her situation , just think deeply and you will find that you ought to count your blessings and not your troubles.


Anonymous said...

Masha'Allah! This is a very nice post. You quoted, "Think of all we have to be grateful for, and thank God for all our boons(blessings) and bounties(rewards)"

That is something we should all reflect on, take to heart, and put into action.

N.Magdy said...

"This was to teach us that we must get up before daybreak to give you thanks, and pray as the sun comes up." (Wisdom 16:28 )

"An ungrateful person's hope will melt away like frost, and drain away like water that is not being used." (Wisdom 16:29 )

deppy said...

Subhan Allah, people tend to only see the missing pieces and totally forget about the blessings, we always forget about the "ebtlaa'", and never say "Alhamdol'Alah".

May alah bless us with tolerance and gratitude :)

Great blog btw :)

Ze2red said...

I think we lack the feelings of being satisfied and content. If we can reach those points then thinking and thanking will be a daily routine and eventually people might be able to stop worrying and complaining. Nice analysis.

TheSphere said...

Thank Yall for your valuable comments , YerAll giving me a push to write more - which I never tried before - but now I have a reason to go on..

Cheers ; )

Anonymous said...

Loving this Blog!

Salutations and God Reward You!

Grettel- said...

This Dale person makes sense in a way. But not all the way. I see people who have a lot worse time as I am having. I am young. With only little responsibility's. And I see people who seem to have all. A loving family, no money problems, lot's of friends and a successful career.

How can everyone has the same percentage 'luck' as anybody else. It isn't so. I have more worse then normal people in my life I guess. People who know my story know where I talk about. But I don't mind. As long as I can keep my head up and keep believing one day I will be rewarded I keep on going.

I worry about real things. I worry a lot about what happens with my friends and family. More then I will ever worry about myself. Cause this is all that matters.

I long for so many things and I know what I will never receive. I do it's true. But I am not unhappy for this.

I am this woman on the road. Sitting not with my children but with all the other things I cherish. My family and friends. A roof above my head. The people I volunteer with... :) My life.

As shitty as it can be. I embrace my misery. Cause it is my misery!

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